If Your Guy Does These 5 Things, He’s Likely A Sociopath

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the excitement of something new, we lose sight of what’s best and healthy for our lives. This can mean overdoing it with an exercise regimen or diet, it can mean missing important details about a new job; and it can most certainly relate to our relationships.
The lure and sparkle of a partnership can blind us to areas of incompatibility or relationship red flags.
While personality quirks or bad habits can be overlooked or change over time, there are some red flags that should not be ignored as they might be indicative of more serious—even dangerous—concerns.
Relationships can make us want to explain away or even deny uneasy feelings, but these red flags should never be ignored.

1. Your partner is quick to become angry, yell or throw things.
Everyone gets angry sometimes, it’s the frequency and severity of your partner’s reactions that should act as a guide for your concerns. Expressing anger, even by yelling, can release tension, frustration and pain—if done in a safe manner; but it should not be used as a method of control in any situation.
Using anger to instill fear in another is unacceptable behavior in any relationship.
Pay attention to the direction your partner’s anger is directed.
Are you the recipient of a barrage of nasty words? Are you expected to absorb the negativity, even if you had nothing to do with the situation? Are you often blamed for your partner’s horrible mood? Does your body ever register fear when your partner erupts?
If you are answering ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you may need to take a step back from the situation to observe your partner’s patterns. Objectively witness. Look for common triggers and consistent reactions.
Bring the issue to light through calm, assertive conversations when you’re both in a good mood and see if the issue can be remedied. If you discover it can not, removing yourself from the relationship may be the best thing for your mental and spiritual well-being, as well as your physical safety.

2. Your partner shows signs of secretive behaviors or excessive lying.
Fact: you can not have a healthy relationship without honesty. This is a non-negotiable component of a strong partnership. If your partner seems as if they’re up to no good, they very well might be.
If your partner seems to keep you compartmentalized from certain areas of their life, this might be a red flag for dishonesty.
Similarly, if, on a regular basis, your partner refuses to discuss other aspects of their day, keeping details of his or her whereabouts or activities from you, this could be indicative of a greater problem. If they are unwilling to share even the most benign details of their life with you, how are you to connect on a more intimate level? Not to mention, what exactly are they hiding?
Now, there is a difference between being a private person and being secretive. Perhaps your partner likes to have an hour or two of quiet after work; maybe texts coming or going late at night aren’t appreciated—these might be signs of a person who prioritizes time alone rather than a person who’s living a double life.

3. Your partner shows drastic, sudden changes in behavior and/or mood.
Maybe you found a relationship that worked in all the right ways: the two of you are compatible, have a strong network of friends, have a great s*x life and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. Life (and love) is good.
If all of this feel-goodness seems to vaporize over night, you have a red flag on your hands.
There are 100 reasons your partner’s persona can shift, even dramatically. Before diving into the bottomless pool of worst-case scenarios, decide if an event has flipped their world upside-down. Did your partner lose a job recently? Is there an illness in the family or a sudden, tragic event that may have spun their insides into a knot of stress? Trauma—in any form—can do crazy things to our sense of well-being, so it’s best to tread lightly while you figure out the source.
If all the not-so-horrific scenarios are ruled out, listen to your gut. Is infidelity a possibility? Are there other warning signs of unfaithfulness accompanying her sudden changes in mood? Again, shifts in mood can mean many things, but they’re undoubtedly a red flag for a bigger problem.

4. Your partner shows signs of extreme, possessive behavior.
There is such thing as taking a healthy interest in your partner’s life. Whether you live together or not, basic “how was your day,” “what did you do today” conversation is perfectly normal and expected.
If your partner’s interest in your day-to-day activities seems a little much, it may be cause for concern.
Some of the earliest red flags of an abusive relationship begin with seemingly harmless questions. If your partner’s gentle “how was your day” turns to much more invasive questions like “who were you with” or “what time did you go to the store/what time did you leave the store,” he may be exhibiting overly-possessive behaviors.
If these types of interactions are coupled with an over-commitment to knowing your whereabouts—they check up on you at work, arrives unannounced to wherever you are, calls or texts excessively, guilts you into staying home, isolates you from friends or family—you may be putting yourself in a dangerous situation and should reach out to a trusted friend, family member or, if you feel your safety is in jeopardy, the Victim’s Resource Center.

5. Your partner doesn’t say “I’m sorry.”
While this may not seem like as big a deal as the previous red flags, the inability to say “I’m sorry” to a partner can have far-reaching repercussions. If your partner refuses to apologize when he or she has done something wrong, this is a red flag for a perception of inequality in the relationship.
This inequality can be interpreted two ways, however; your task will be to uncover the ‘why’ before you can address the issue.
In the first scenario, an inability to say “I’m sorry” can be a way for your partner to project dominance or superiority in the relationship. When faced with a problem, you partner will unload responsibility to any one other than him or herself. They’ll talk around the issue instead of addressing it in a direct manner. They storm off to avoid confrontation only to return later as if nothing happened.
These are all red flags; and by accepting this behavior, you send the message that this is acceptable, that you don’t deserve honesty, that you are not equals in the partnership.
In the second scenario, I speak from experience; there are times when an apology has deep, nasty roots of inadequacy. Apologies are an admission of guilt, which is essentially saying, “I’m not perfect.” None of us are perfect, it’s true, but to expose yourself in such a way with the one you love leaves you vulnerable to criticism or rejection.
It wasn’t until my partner brought my conspicuously absent apologies to my attention that I even recognized the problem. After many (many) conversations and a whole lot of practice, I’ve learned to apologize when I’m in the wrong—even when it hurts like hell.

Pastor rapes 16-year- old during three-day deliverance prayer

The Lagos State Police Command has arrested a pastor, Abraham Sunday, for allegedly raping a 16-year-old girl, Kike (pseudonym) in Adalemo Estate, in the Toll Gate area, on the Lagos-Abeokuta Expressway.

PUNCH Metro learnt that Sunday, the pastor of Christ In All Nations Church in Adalemo, was arrested by the Ojokoro Police Division last Wednesday, September 2, from where he was taken to the Department of Criminal Investigation, Yaba.

It was gathered that Kike, who was ill, had been taken by the pastor to a house in Adalemo Estate on August 28 for deliverance prayer when the incident occured.

It was learnt that the victim’s mother, who said Sunday was a family friend, became apprehensive after she did not hear from her daughter.

The matter was said to have been reported to the police by the landlord of the house where Sunday allegedly camped the teenager to rape her.

A police source told our correspondent that after Kike was rescued, she was taken to a hospital, where a medical test confirmed that she had been raped. The pastor was thereafter arrested.

He said, “The pastor was like a foster father to the girl. She was ill and had gone to a hospital in the area. While returning from the hospital, she boarded the same bus with the pastor, who said he would take her to a place for prayers.

“Since the suspect was a family friend, she did not doubt him. So, they went to the pastor’s apartment, where he camped and raped her for three days. The victim’s mother did not even know about the deliverance prayer.

“On Monday, the landlord and some neighbours got suspicious of the pastor’s arrangement with the teenager and they alerted a non-governmental organisation in the area, which in turn invited the police. The girl was rescued and rushed to a hospital, where a medical test confirmed rape. The suspect was arrested immediately.”

Our correspondent learnt that Kike and her mother were thereafter referred to the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team and the Ministry of Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation.

The DSVRT Coordinator, Lola Viviour-Adeniyi, said the team had taken up the rehabilitation of the victim.

She said, “It was an NGO, Rubies Ink, that brought the matter to our attention.

“The girl was taken away for prayer. She was in the pastor’s house at the Adalemo area for three days, and during that period, he raped her.

“The DSVRT reached out to the victim’s mother, but she maintained that she would not pursue any case. While admitting that the pastor defiled her daughter, the mother said the pastor had a three-month-old baby, and she did not want him to be jailed.

“However, we informed the police at Ojokoro division that the state government was interested in the matter.

“This prompted the transfer of the suspect to the SDCI, Yaba.

“At present, the girl is undergoing treatment. She was taken to the Mirabel Centre.”

The Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, DSP Patricia Amadin, confirmed the pastor’s arrest.

She said, “The police have arrested the suspect, and the matter has also been transferred to the SDCI, Yaba.’’

Beyonce And Jay Z’ Heading For Divorce?!?

New reports are suggesting that queen Beyonce is planning to end her 7 year marriage to hip hop mogul, Jay Z!

According to RadarOnline, Jay Z’s failure to appear at the Made In America Festival during Beyonce’s performance of their duet, ‘Drunk In-Love’, hit song got fans speculating that there’s trouble in paradise.

Reports say that Jay Z was spotted dancing and singing to Bey’s songs as she rocked the stage in front of screaming fans; a source tells In Touch magazine that “It’s dead! Bey is sick of keeping up the ruse of happiness, and she’s done.”

The mag claims it’s like Bey is afraid of being asked questions about her marriage, hence hasn’t done any interview in the past 18 months; right before the notorious elevator outburst between Solange and Jay in May.

“It’s like she’s on lockdown and doesn’t want to be asked about her marriage or why she and Jay haven’t had another child after Blue Ivy. But in private, she’s already told friends and family that she’s moving forward with her life. She’ll soon make a public announcement that their marriage is over,” claims the source.

 Rumors have swirled for years that Jay Z has been cheating on his wife with everyone from Rihanna, Rita Ora to fashion designer Rachel Roy; however the source claims the couple’s pre-MTV VMAs fight could end their union.

“Earlier this summer, Bey found some suspicious texts on Jay’s phone that led her to believe he was having a secret flirtatious communication with one of his [female] proteges. Beyonce’s been on high alert for some time and took her new suspicions to one of Jay Z’s right hand men, who told her she needed to take that up with her husband. To Bey, that was a confirmation of her worst suspicions and fears,” a source told In Touch.

Neither Jay Z nor Beyonce has commented on these allegations, stay tuned to this page for updates!

TOO MANY YOUNG NIGERIANS DYING OF KIDNEY FAILURE, 4 THINGS TO KNOW [MUST READ]

Beyond the loss of a much younger sibling, my friend, Frank’s, devastation is understandably aggravated by the realization that she had had kidney problem for awhile without knowing.

The doctors had always treated her for ulcer or some other minor stomach ailment, but unbeknownst to all, her kidney was failing all the while. Last week, the vital organ gave up totally. She passed away… less than 5 months after her wedding, painfully.

To cut the story short, this young woman’s demise is another unfortunate reminder of not just the state of our healthcare system, but also our carelessness as human beings. This is not intended to excoriate the deceased but to put us, the living, on notice.

Prevention is better than cure, they say. And knowledge is power. It is rare for a kidney much less both kidneys to pack up overnight. It takes a while. And there are three major factors that can lead to kidney failure or kidney problems namely:
1. Chronic hypertension
2. Diabetes
3. Heredity
4. Self-medication, especially painkillers.

Knowing that you’re hypertensive or diabetic or there’s a history of kidney disease in your immediate or extended family could be a life-saver.

Thankfully, the tests for hypertension and diabetes are nothing compared to all the nonsense we spend our money on daily. Even KFT (Kidney Function Test) is inexpensive. And, of course, you can easily find out medical history of your family (one of the reasons some of us advocate for autopsy, which is more for the living than the dead).

As for self-medication, I personally view the practice as suicide. Why would you prescribe antibiotics, tranquilizer so or even painkillers for yourself? There are people who pop all manner of drugs everyday into their system for no reason. And even if there’s a reason to take drugs, why would a PR practitioner, like me, prescribe drugs to myself or any other person? A doctor friend told me paracetamol is, perhaps, the most abused and could be the major cause of sudden inexplicable kidney failure.

So, if you are genetically (family history) or medically (hypertension and/or diabetes) predisposed to Kidney disease, then you must do the KFT may be twice a year. And if you’re in the habit of swallowing paracetamol or some sexier, stronger painkillers, you better desist for you are putting your kidney at risk. As a matter of fact, that constant headache may be symptomatic of migraine or hypertension or some other more dangerous ailment that ought to be handled differently-and which could affect your kidney, if left untreated for long.

I’m not a doctor (isn’t that obvious?) but I’m concerned about the scary rising spate of deaths due to kidney disease in Nigeria. Another look at your lifestyle and a visit to your doctor (and your village or city, as the case may be) might be all you need to prevent this rampaging disease and live for as long as your Creator has programmed for you.

Emeka Oparah is a social commentator and public relations professional. He is on Facebook.

The opinions expressed in this article are solely those of the author.

SERIOUSLY WTF?? PHOTOS: CHECKOUT NEW MALE R&B SINGER HAS MORE HIPS THAN KIM K, NICKI, TOOLZ & CO.

Micah is an up-coming R&B singer that has more hips and a ss

than Kim K, K.Michelle, Nicki Minaj and every other big booty female you can think of. How the heck did this happen? How can a man have all that hips and butt? he’s 20 and has a great voice if you watch some of his videos.

See photos…

NIGERIAN SENIOR POLICEWOMAN DEMOTED AFTER SHE WAS CAUGHT HAVING SEX IN HER CAR

A Nigerian policewoman has been demoted after she was caught having se.x in a car inside the police college during a promotional examination course.

The married woman, simply identified as Helen, was said to have been discovered making love with another man, who is not her husband inside her personal car.

The incident would have been swept under the carpet, but it became an issue because the mother of four indulged in the se.xual escapade at the Ikeja Police College, where she and thousands of other policemen and women went for the ‘Sergeant to Inspector’ mandatory promotion course.

Rather than go back home and await her new rank of inspector, Helen left the training ground as a corporal.

According to a police source, the course was just for a month.

It started on June 24 and ended July 25.

All the trainees were warned not go out of the College or entertain any visitor during the examination, but Helen flouted the order.

The provost of the college, who warned that nobody should be seen after “light out” decided to carry out his usual security check around the College compound before turning in for the night.

He was, however, shocked to notice a car, with people inside.

He drew closer, beamed his torchlight and saw Helen and her partner stark Unclad, making love inside the car. They were ordered out of the car.

As soon as the provost started interrogating them, the man took to his heels and disappeared into the night.

Helen said the man was her lover and that the car belonged to her and nobody knew how the man came into the College.

10 TIPS TO PREVENT DEATH BY FIRE IN YOUR LAGOS HOME (PHOTOS)

A spate of fire accidents has been recorded in Lagos in the past two months and unfortunately, the number seems to be growing. Some of these accidents are caused by negligence which could have prevented an unfortunate incident. The effect of these fire accidents is loss of lives and properties.

Prevention is way cheaper, better and more reasonable than cure. Here are 10 ways to prevent fire accident in your Lagos home.

Turn Off All Appliances

Lagosians are always in a hurry to go about their daily lives leaving a lot of things unattended to. Whether power is available or not, it is important to make sure all electrical appliances are turned off when going out as an upsurge of power can result in a fire.

Repair/Change Faulty Appliances

The culture of managing or making do with what is available should not be employed when dealing with faulty appliances. Faulty sockets that spark when in use should be changed instead of managing it. This is financial reasonable than having to replace items destroyed in a fire accident.

Report Faulty Electricity Metres/Poles

A lot of homes in Lagos still use the old electricity metres or the old wooden poles which have seen better days. In order to prevent disaster, it’s safer to immediately report to the nearest Power Holding Company of Nigeria office to get replacement

Don’t Fill Generator While It’s Still Running

Some Lagosians have the habit of refilling a generator with petrol while it’s still running probably because they don’t want their television or other appliances to go off. This can be deadly as the already charged generator can be ignited when it comes in contact with fuel.

Don’t Place Candles Near Inflammable Items


Some Lagosians are not always conscious about places they place candles. Some people carelessly place candles on tables or on carpets instead of using chandeliers or other non-inflammable items. A candle placed on a table can fall and result in fire.

Don’t go to sleep with a candle on

Regardless of how safe the location of a candle is, it is safer to put the light out before going to sleep. Candles are prone to causing fire because they don’t have coverings. It’s better to use a battery torch on if necessary.

Handle Gas Cookers With Care

When using a gas cooker, care must be taken to follow safety measures. Gas is very volatile and requires that a user take precaution when turning the knob. Gas cylinders should also be examined for leakages too.

Use Ashtray

If you must smoke in the room, make sure you place the stub in an ash tray. You can then dispose the ash appropriately later. Be careful not to drop lighted cigarettes as the ember can ignite a fire.

Avoid ‘Resting’ When Cooking

Due to the issue of traffic in Lagos, some people return home late and tired but still insist on cooking. It is important to know that one should avoid the tempting rest that comes after one has placed the food on the stove. One should try to stay awake at all cost and not get onto the bed or couch to rest as one can drift to a deep sleep.

Take Matches Away From The Reach Of Children



Children are very curious and like to try things out. Avoid letting children play with matches or lighters. Make sure they don’t have access to fuel and other combustible items.

Dance Queen Kaffy Put Her Big B0 0by On Display (Photo)

Dacne queen, kaffy want you all to is her big organe, hope you enjoy the view

Unbelievable!! Meet The Man Running On Water For 125 Metres (Photo)

Shi Liliang can run on water. Kind of. He can run along planks that are floating on water, which is as close as you’re going to get, unless you happen to be Jesus.

He’s been running on water for ten years, and on Thursday broke his own record by managing to get 125 meteres across a lake.
It wasn’t his first attempt. He’s tried it five times before, so that Shaolin patience really does pay off.

He’s received quite a bit of attention for his stunt, but being the good monk that he is, he’s used it to focus on raising tuition money for underprivileged students.

LADIES!! SEE HOW YOU CAN MAKE YOUR BU TT BIGGER AND FULLER [LOOK]

A smaller waist can also make your bú tt appear bigger. Try exercises that will help you lose weight around your midsection. Exercises like leg lifts, planks, crunches etc. will help slim down your waist.

While some women are naturally blessed with big bú tts, some have to strive a little harder to get curvy glutes. Nevertheless, it is not an impossible feat. Here are some easy tips and tricks to make your bú tt look fuller.

The right posture

When you adopt the right posture especially while standing it flatters your body, thereby highlighting your curves. This will not only make your bú tt look bigger but it will also make you look taller and lean.

The runway walk

The right walk can also highlight your curves. Try to mimic a runway model’s walk by throwing your shoulders back and arching your lower back. Doing so will make your bú tt appear protruding, thereby creating a fuller image. This will not only help your bútt but will also slim down your torso, making your chest appear fuller.

Bú tt exercises

But apart from all the other tricks that make your bú tt appear fuller, exercise is the only natural way to actually make your bú tt bigger and curvier. Several exercises like squats, bú tt bridges, stiff-leg deadlifts, lunges etc. can strengthen your bútt muscles and make them larger.

Exercise for a smaller waist

A smaller waist can also make your bú tt appear bigger. Try exercises that will help you lose weight around your midsection. Exercises like leg lifts, planks, crunches etc. will help slim down your waist.

Wear a girdle or shapewear

Wearing a girdle or shapewear as this will help push the excess from your tummy down to the bú tt and hips. Apart from that it will also make your waist look slimmer, further making your bú tt look a little more prominent.